In today’s culture, many of us are so used to being over-stimulated and to being forced to multi-task constantly, that we’ve lost our connection to ourselves.
If you aren’t ready to start a daily meditation or journeying or ritual practice, but you still feel drawn to connecting to your soul, then the first step may be to just be okay with being present with yourself.
It can be really difficult for those of us who are always busy and goal-oriented to allow ourselves to just be.
But this is a MAJOR step in the self-worth, good enough, perfectly imperfect soul’s journey.
To just be present with ourselves – without distractions, without numbing, without entertainment, without doing, without helping, without fixing, without working toward something, without comparing to others – is incredibly empowering.
But for those of us who have never done this, it can feel REALLY scary or uncomfortable or even painful.
We may even start to think, what is the point? How do I have any worth if I’m just sitting here like a bump on a log? And THAT is how you discover your inner beliefs on self-worth.
So, how do we do it if it feels painful and like an impossible task?
We can start small and ease ourselves into it.
Start with taking a long shower without any music, podcast, tv show, or anything on. You’re still doing something productive, but you can hear your thoughts and be present to yourself.
Then, try drinking your coffee out on your deck or sitting looking out the window, without any technology. No phone, no music, no television. Just you, your coffee, nature, and your thoughts.
If you like to work out or to hike, try doing so without any music or podcasts or videos, immersing yourself in how you actually feel and being present in your body.
In these ways, you are still doing something, unlike sitting to meditate, so it is more comfortable and less painful.
But decreasing and eventually stopping your multitasking allows you to gradually be more and more present to the thoughts and feelings you have without distractions to suppress them or take you away from them.
In this way, you can start taking note of the thoughts that come up. You may find that you’ve been thinking way more negative self-talk than you ever realized. And with this awareness, you can begin to change those thoughts.
But just starting with being present to yourself and becoming aware of the thoughts and feelings that come up is an INCREDIBLE first step.